What to do if your wife cheated on you. I said i dont know what the big deal was as long as you stayed together. So, no shame or guilt. This story starts a year and a half ago. My wife took four condoms from my night table I had 23 in two packs which were given to us by a friend who works in a clinic. What is certain is that woman and man are not the same. By no means am I an expert but hopefully something you find here will help or support you in some way. For her, having an affair is easier and more pleasurable than fixing the problems in your marriage, or making an effort to rekindle lost love. Well, months later I found out she was with her boss You will need time to observe him making good on his promises and conducting himself in a way that you can respect, respond to, and admire again.