Trapped in a loveless sexless marriage. I come from a loud family who likes to have parties with family friends and drink. I was married to one, and I was madly in love with another. The OW was married too with 3 children, just like us. You need to leave and start another life or are you waiting for him to finally convince his ex to take him back? But one can certainly see some good points too. At least be honest with yourself, because you love your kids. I used to see him at least twice a week but what changed was that we started talking everyday on Facebook which made us closer, as we started to know each other more. C Wifford, Thank you for sharing your story. Focus on career above everything else. I finally realized that I could not change him and so we broke up. You are prohibited from the true, un-filtered or watered down emotions you feel. He didn't back me or include me on anything and he treated co workers better than his own family.